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Our Voice – July 2020

FireworksJuly is typically the month we celebrate freedom. We have a front row seat to see God bring freedom and healing to our participants. We wanted to take some time and celebrate together what God is doing in so many lives through SAVAnon and ABAnon.  —Rachel Bren

“After participating I feel a sense of freedom.”

Our Voices ACROSS THE UNITED STATES and AROUND THE WORLD— 

ABAnon participant from New York— Before joining this group I was continuing to work through the program and find grace through faith.  My goal was to pay close attention to how the group was facilitated; however, I spent more time healing and growing personally.  I understand it’s an ever-changing process. After participating in this group, I feel like challenging ideas will always come up, but through the grace of God, I’ll meet each challenge appropriately.  I feel like I can know and love more people than I’ve ever imagined.

This group has helped me realized the many different point of views stories, hurts, pains, but most of all that love knows no bounds.  The zoom calls were organized, and everyone gave priority and attention.

SAVAnon participant in Cincinnati— Before joining this group I was unsure how to process trauma. I was living very unaware of my trauma and how it was impacting my life. I was stuck!  After participating I finally see my trauma for what it is. I finally feel like God is bringing a light to my trauma and abuse. I’ve healed in so many ways and have started the process in others.

This group has helped affirm me in my struggles and heal me from feeling judged. I understand my abuse in a whole new way that looks like hope instead of darkness. I am finally excited to seek counseling instead of feeling fear.

ABAnon participant in Texas— Before joining this group I was spiraling out of control and not able to deal with my emotions. After participating in this group I feel a lot stronger! Like, so much weight has been lifted from my shoulders. I’m almost me again and I can breathe.

SAVAnon participant in Montana— Before joining this group I was scared, alone and feeling like no one understood.  After participating I feel welcomed, loved and accepted and on the path of healing. This group has helped me feel accepted and like I’m part of a family; that my emotions and feelings are normal.

SAVAnon participant in Washington— Before joining this group I felt trapped and alone. I had a lot of unforgiveness and bitterness and didn’t know where to start with processing and healing. After participating I feel a lot less alone and more free than trapped. I feel like there is hope for healing now. I feel stronger than I did before and less burdened with unforgiveness and bitterness.

This group has helped put physical truth to the knowledge that I’m not alone. It helped me begin pursuing healing and closure.

SAVAnon participant in Washington— Before joining this group I felt angry, scared and set off all the time by PTSD. After participating I feel relieved – giving my anger over to God and forgiving myself. I have stopped believing the devil’s lies.

This group has helped me to be open about my life and my experiences. I have learned to start trusting people.

SAVAnon participant in Nevada— Before joining this group I was convinced I didn’t have story to tell; that it was all my fault. After participating I know it wasn’t my fault and I didn’t ask for it.

This group helped me realize I will be okay and I can get better.

SAVAnon participant in Australia— Before joining this group I had not heard very many abuse stories or been involved in any sexual abuse groups. It was a wonderful experience with loving facilitators. After participating I feel very motivated to facilitate healing and helping within my own church.

This group helped me realize that I want to become more involved in that area of people’s needs.

ABAnon participant in Ukraine— Before this group I was feeling very sad and alone, like I didn’t really have anyone who could really understand or empathize with what I’ve gone through.  I was suffering in silence for the most part, only finding partial; solace in books, online forums and group.  It wasn’t enough for me.  I needed to be in an environment where I could actually see other post-abortive women and hear their stories and share mine.

After participating I feel I feel less isolated and I also feel more love and support than I did before.  I have more hope that I can actually get through this healing journey and that there is a group of wonderful women who care about me and will be there for me when I need them.  I feel stronger right now than I did before joining the group.

This group helped me to process my healing in a loving and supportive environment.  It has helped me to see that there is hope, and that I don’t have to suffer alone.  It has helped me realize that other post-abortive women share a lot of the same struggles I have but that healing is possible.

SAVAnon participant in Chili— Before joining this group I was not dealing with my abuse and was just pushing it and repressing it. After participating I feel a sense of freedom.

This group helped me. Sharing my story has really helped me to experience freedom by going to the time frame of the abuse, dealing with the details so that I can leave it and move on.

“This group helped me see that there is hope and that healing is possible!”

“This group has helped me put physical truth to the knowledge that I’m not alone.”

 

 

Our Voice – June 2020

PERFECT VISION: Seeing Where God is Moving

I have the practice of listing all the good things that are happening as a way to shift my focus to see more clearly where God is moving. I want to share some of the awesome things we see God doing in AbAnon/SAVAnon.

We have seen him bring clarity and healing to record numbers of people through our groups. We are busier than ever. The shelter-in-place order, which on the surface looked like it might set back our healing groups, actually worked to accelerate our online groups. We have launched two separate healing groups in New York alone.

The growing numbers gave opportunity to refine our intake process to ensure those who start healing groups are ready and willing to follow through to the end.

We have seen a record number of participants step out to volunteer as facilitators. Because of this rapid growth we have updated to an online facilitator training. Laurel Bahr, SAVAnon Director, has spent countless hours working with trainers to get our Teachable classroom up and running. This allows us to train more facilitators, which will in turn allows us to launch more healing groups.

As we have grown, so has the need for additional help, we have added new team members. Jennifer Reed has come on board as our AbAnon Director. We are very excited about her passion to see others find healing. Mary Jones has joined us to oversee social media and marketing to communicate the healing that is possible through our classes.

This year has given us many opportunities to think outside the box and trust God in a deeper way. We had to cancel a fundraiser scheduled for the end of March. Our fundraisers provide about 40% of our annual budget. We are hoping to reschedule that for August. I say “hoping” because as we have seen, plans can change very rapidly. In the meantime, we are working on campaigns to bridge that gap.

We are asking you to prayerfully consider partnering with us. If you are a monthly partner, would you prayerfully consider increasing your monthly donation? If you are an occasional partner, would you prayerfully consider donating monthly? If you have experienced one of our healing groups, would you consider donating to help someone else have the opportunity to experience healing as well?

One of the most important things I have seen so far in 2020 is that we are not in this alone. A large part of our year may have been spent in isolation, but we are in this together. I am so proud to work, pray and kneel alongside each you. 

Rachel Bren,
Development Director,  SAVAnon

TO BE LIKE OUR FATHER

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We live in a world where liking a social media post enables us to create a world where we can be whomever we want to be, escaping a reality that may look very different. Our current culture tells us that we make ourselves who we are and that our history defines us through generational experiences; I once viewed my life that way.

When I was a young adult— living life according to my own plan and with little regard to anyone other than myself and my girlfriend; we found out that someone, God, had other plans. I quickly had to transition from doing whatever I wanted, into, “ I’m going to be a father.” I looked at my own father and wondered if I could do it. I was reminded that God had created life in His image (Genesis 1:26) and that now, my life was not longer my own. Shortly after this realization and transformation, the decision was made to end the pregnancy that had already changed my entire world.

I was never the same. My “Father’s Heart” had been activated and I became so much more aware of what it meant to truly be a dad.

I met my wife when I was 26 years old, we married and began to discuss having children. I had such a deep desire to be a father and now those hopes were within my reach, but I needed healing from the pain and emotional impact caused by abortion.

My wife and I are very blessed to have a 14-year-old daughter and 9-year-old son. Being a dad is all I hoped and dreamed it would be. I was there for every doctor visit, every ultrasound, and the birth of both of our children. However, in all the excitement of their births, I was reminded of the moment I saw my preborn child in the procedure room when I was just a young man who desperately wanted to be a father. I knew my heart was fractured and I yearned for healing and to help others who were in the same position I had found myself in all those years ago.

I was at a Life Services (now MyChoice) volunteer training even. We shared our reasons for being there and I explained that I wanted to help other men make the choice to be a dad. I was encouraged to contact AbAnon, a local non-profit that offers support and restoration for post abortive women and men, and I did just that.  I attended the 8-week course included in the AbAnon program. I attended facilitator training and am now a board member.

With the support of my wife, AbAnon, and my Heavenly Father, I have experienced another level of freedom and restoration. I am not ashamed of my story! My story has Power! Your story has Power!

Being a Dad is one of the greatest challenges in life. Children are our greatest gifts from God and we are called to love, care for and cherish them. God created us in “His likeness” so that we would know how to love them well. In whatever capacity you find yourself: bio-dad, step-dad, granddad, uncle, brother, or mentor, the role of a Father’s Heart is vital in every child’s life.

In a world where we have the opportunity to build alternate realities through social media, let us be reminded that no post or photo will every replace the quality time and memories that we make in real life with the children we have been entrusted to lead, teach, and protect.

—Geoff Morgan, AbAnon Facilitator and member of  Board of Directors